My most requested blog topic is, in someone’s words, how I “found” such a “perfect” relationship.
To blog in advising upon this is to state something upfront: I wasn’t looking.
If you are someone who struggles with feeling unfulfilled without a relationship, or strongly desiring one, I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with being excited about a future relationship.
However, seeking “a relationship” in general is the worst thing you could do in this case, because I believe this will make you much more likely to settle for just anyone.
And being in an unnatural relationship with someone you don’t actually want to be with is going to be so much worse than being single.
Ultimately, in a true and good relationship, sacrifice, selflessness, and compassion make up such a significant portion of what makes the relationship good. But we, as imperfect humans, are not perfect at this. This is why we need a firm foundation, someone who is good at it.
So, how does a single person desiring a relationship “find” a good one?
Fall in love with the One who is Love. The perfect lover who will never let you down. Who created You, who knows you inside and out, is loving on you 24/7 and then some. Desire to please and serve Him as you let HIS love overflow in your life. Seek His perfect will.
Allow His Spirit to guide you.
I met my boyfriend Johnny three years ago in a university class. Neither of us were actively seeking a relationship by any means; but after just a few dates, God made it very clear to both of us that we were meant to be together. It’s been so natural, fun, and beautiful ever since.
While there is no “perfect” story of the start of a relationship, there is a perfect God with a perfect story for you– and recognizing your place under Him, as His servant created for His use, will remind you what a privilege that is, and set you free to live trusting Him with every piece of your life.